Update to last post

As I have found time in the last few days for pause and reflection, I have found these words to be helpful.

"Even when we encounter mean-spirited criticism from persons who have little regard or love for us, it can be helpful to exercise enough meekness to weigh it and sift out anything that might benefit us." Elder D. Todd Christofferson April 2011 Conference

I have no idea if she has little regard or love for me...but I know I have little for her...which is probably why I was offended.

It's times like this when I remember the most effective tool in teaching investigators on my mission was BRT!!!! Build Relationships of Trust. I pretty much don't have any sort of "relationship" with this sister or "Trust." If there had been some BRT going on...I don't think it would have been as hurtful. In these busy lives we live these days, we don't take time to get to know each other and sometimes it's like strangers walking up to you and telling you something critical. You automatically take the offense and think: Who the heck are you? and then from little you know you go to: "Would you like me to critique your sharing times?" I DON'T THINK SO. We have Stake Meeting tomorrow night. From what I understand...someone in the stake Presidency took the Prophet Wheel I made and is going to use it at it. Should be interesting. Hopefully, it will be a constructive meeting!

Side note: There is no such thing as Constructive Criticism. You can't build up and tear down! Notice the tear down is always what comes last. Doesn't leave you feeling very good!

Elder Christofferson said, " Remember that reproof should be timely,with sharpness or clarity, 'when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing afterwards an increase of love toward him who thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be thine enemy. ' D & C 121:43"

And that's exactly the opposite of what happened to me on Sunday! Do I perceive her as an enemy. Yep, pretty much!!!! It wasn't friendly or done with love....at least I didn't feel any friendliness or love!!!! I'm still working on it! Stay tuned!!!